A first look is one of the most intentional pauses you can build into your wedding day. It’s a moment where the noise softens, the timeline slows, and you get to see someone you love for the first time in a meaningful way.

While most people think of a first look as the moment a couple sees each other before the ceremony, there are actually a few different types of first looks that can happen on a wedding day — each with its own emotional tone and opportunities.

Here’s a breakdown of the three most common types of first looks, plus ideas for what to do during each one so it feels natural, emotional, and true to you.

Father Daughter First look

This first look is often overlooked, but it’s one of the most emotional moments of the day. Whether it’s with a parent, grandparent, or close family member, these reactions tend to be raw and deeply meaningful.

Why it matters

It creates a quiet, intentional moment with someone who’s been part of your entire story
It gives family members time to process the emotion without an audience
These images often become some of the most treasured photographs

What to do during this moment

Let them really see you — don’t rush it
A great time to give a gift
Share a hug, a few words, or a laugh through tears
If it feels right, thank them or tell them you love them

These moments don’t need direction. They just need space.

The Wedding Party or “Reveal” First Look

This is the fun, high-energy first look — think bridesmaids seeing the dress, or groomsmen reacting to a sharp suit moment.

Why couples love this one

It adds levity and excitement to the getting-ready portion of the day
It creates joyful, candid photos full of personality
It helps shake off nerves with people who know you best

What to do during it

Play it up — reactions are encouraged
Walk in confidently or spin for a reveal
Laugh, hug, cheer, repeat

These moments are less about stillness and more about celebration — and they balance the quieter first looks beautifully.

The Couple’s First Look

This is the classic version: you and your partner seeing each other before the ceremony, away from guests, with just enough guidance to feel comfortable but not staged.

Why couples choose it

You get private, uninterrupted time together
Nerves tend to melt away before the ceremony
It allows more flexibility in the timeline for portraits and family photos
You get to fully be present during the ceremony instead of running on adrenaline

What to do during your first look

There’s no script — and that’s the beauty of it. Some ideas:

Take a few deep breaths together
Exchange private vows or letters
Hold hands and talk (yes, even awkward laughter is perfect)
Take a quiet walk or simply stand together for a moment

From a photographer’s perspective, the best images happen when you forget about the camera and focus on each other. Gentle movement and real connection always photograph beautifully.

A Guide to Wedding Day First Looks: Three Styles & How to Experience Them Fully